What Men Want - Real Relationship Advice

Tips & Advice from relationship expert Kathleen Falken 

>>SEXUAL ATTRACTION: The 3 Signs That He Is Interested In You 

Here's the hidden key to a loving relationship. Men want to be enraptured by a woman. They may not admit it openly, but they want to be lured, finessed, bewitched, possessed and seduced by a woman -- and they don't mind surrendering to her siren maneuverings and be rendered powerless by her. A man would gladly give anything to the woman who can make him feel good.

So many of my female clients don't even seem to know if the man they have just dated even likes them. They want to know: "Was he really attracted to me? Did he find me sexy?"

Bob Grant, known as The Relationship Doctor, and author of the best selling THE WOMEN MEN ADORE... AND NEVER WANT TO LEAVE explains, "While a woman's sexual skills and good cooking are always appreciated by men, seduction is 99% mental sorcery. Over the years, I've wanted to teach this and other powerful relationship principles to more than just the female clients who are able to travel to my office in Georgia for relationship counseling."

Bob has spoken of the Three Signs That a man is interested in the woman he has just dated:

1. He Makes Good Eye Contact.

Since guys are visual, it goes without saying that they stare at women whom they find attractive. This is significant because, as a general rule of thumb, men tend to avoid prolonged eye contact because of its threatening nature (think Alpha Male stuff).

In addition, every man can tell you a story of some woman he was nice to, who misinterpreted his kindness as an indication of romantic interest. If you ask 100 men why they are so guarded about giving a woman the wrong impression, the answer is simple, "Because she might not leave."

HOW TO RESPOND: When you notice his gaze, simply smile back while maintaining eye contact for a couple of seconds and then quickly look away. This simple gesture is all the invitation he will need to approach you.

2. He'll Listen to You

Need I mention that men hate being bored. Women don't prefer it, but men detest it. Nothing is more boring to most men than being trapped in a conversation with someone who doesn't interest them. If you were to ask how you can tell if you are the woman who is holding him hostage, relax. Most men won't listen long enough for that to happen to you. If he is listening to you talk about your work, friends or other interests for more than 5 minutes, he's interested in you.

HOW TO RESPOND: Remember that the person doing the talking is NOT in control. The listener is in control. You want the conversation centered on him so that you can begin training him to be emotionally dependent on you.

Men always find women who listen to them to be irresistible. When you are listening, be sure to make eye contact with him occasionally. Most women can easily do two things at once, so resist the urge to listen and look elsewhere.

Without some eye contact, you may hear what he is saying, but you won't look like you care.

3. He Frequents Your Friends

Most men know that if you simply approach a woman and give her a "YES" or "NO" question, you only have a 50/50 chance of her saying yes, or worse. Therefore, the clever guys are those who slowly infiltrate your inner circle of friends because they know if your friends like them, they have a better chance with you.

Don't be threatened if you see a guy strike up a conversation with one of your girlfriends. Yes, he may just be interested in her and not you, but there is a good chance you are the primary target. As a guy gets to know your friends, it becomes easier for him to approach both of you in the future.

HOW TO RESPOND: If you notice him talking to one of your gal pals, don't approach them too quickly. In fact, don't approach them at all. Act as though you did not notice them speaking and maintain your distance.

The next time you are with that friend, stay close to her and he will be able to approach you, through her.

>> UNDERSTAND YOUR MAN: 50 Universal Truths About Men

There are many reasons why women have relationship trouble, but the main reason is that women simply don't understand men. If a woman really understood men, she'd know how to effortlessly attract men like a magnet, make men powerless in her hands, have them treat her like a queen, and give her everything her heart desires...

The main obstacle women face in their effort to understand men is that they turn to all the wrong things: They seek advice from their girlfriends, who are just as clueless as they are in figuring men out; and they read dime-store relationship advice from women's magazines.

As Bob Grant, who is known as The Relationship Doctor and author of the best selling THE WOMEN MEN ADORE... AND NEVER WANT TO LEAVE says: "I chuckle every time I remember the story of a woman who spent hours on the phone with her girlfriend discussing why her boyfriend was giving her the silent treatment, and what she might have done to provoke it, and what she could do to get him talking again. All the while, her boyfriend was just not in a talkative mood because he was worrying that the carburetor in his car wasn't working right!

"Just goes to show how little women know about men!"

Bob Grant has listed 50 Universal Truths about Men, and they are so true that I've got to pass them on to you:

1. Why should I remind you that "I love you?" I already told you once.

2. I'll do anything for sex; even commit to you for life.

3. I hate arguing with you. I'd much rather find a compromise.

4. I love long hair. Sorry, but I do.

5. When you speak softly, I can't help but listen.

6. I need to be told "no" sometimes. Not a lot, but every now and again reminds me that you are expensive.

7. Please do not ask me how you look unless you're willing to trust my answer.

8. My eyes notice other women a lot more when you are upset with me.

9. When you're happy with me I can't help but want to please you.

10. If I do not feel I can make you happy, it makes me feel less than a man.

11. I expect you to be ready when I pick you up.

12. Cigarettes make any woman look cheap and easy.

13. I'm scared if I let a woman inside my heart, she will take advantage of me.

14. If you can't stand up to me when I am a brat, you're too weak for me to open up to when I am upset.

15. Sitting quietly next to me after you've made me a meal is your get-out-of-the-doghouse-free ticket. You'll be surprised how quickly I can forgive.

16. You did something hurtful. If I never bring it up, I am considering leaving you.

17. I don't read minds. Remember, I'm not a girl.

18. You may know fashion, but I wish you would dress to please me, not other women.

19. If I am losing my hair, it's not funny. Would you like me to joke about your weight?

20. When I talk to you about golf and you act bored, it would be nice for you to remember all the times I listened to you talk about what is important to you.

21. The woman I love is easy to please. She appreciates the effort I put into making her happy, even if I get the details wrong.

22. You look hot in a dress.

23. I hate being told what to do when I don't ask for help. It makes me feel you are my mother.

24. If you sleep over, I might eventually marry you, but I'm less motivated.

25. During sex my ears are as sensitive to your words as your skin is to my touch.

26. I need some type of signal or cue to walk across the room and approach you. What if you are married!?

27. It makes me feel like you trust me when you ask for my advice.

28. It feels competitive when you insist on being in charge.

29. Being respected is more important to me that being loved.

30. I want every guy to envy me when we arrive as a couple. Please don't let yourself go.

31. When I am upset I am very tone sensitive. How you say it is more important that what you say.

32. I hate it when you minimize/ignore my compliments. It makes me what to stop giving them.

33. I am more insecure than you think. Why do you think I need your respect so much?

34. I do not always know how I feel. That is why I don't tell you.

35. I don't need you to do things for me. What I crave is being able to please you.

36. If I do one thing and say something contradictory, go with my actions -- that will always tell you what is in my heart.

37. I find myself wanting to please you when you simply smile at me without asking for something. (Like a favor).

38. I really do not want to hear about any of your ex-boyfriends, regardless of the point.

39. If I don't share what I am thinking it's because I don't think you will listen without interrupting.

40. I don't like to argue and I don't like to guess what's wrong. Just tell me so I can fix it.

41. I love it when you put your hair in a pony tail. Yes, it is a Freudian thing.

42. Do not ask me, "Are you going to wear that?" when I am already dressed.

43. A gentleman should always be respected by his lady in public, even if she is disagreeing with him.

44. If you don't believe you are pretty, you won't believe me when I tell you, no matter how many times I say it.

45. It isn't how much you weigh; it is that your body is proportionate which is so attractive.

46. Sometimes I have weird and strange thoughts. I don't take them seriously and I don’t want to share them with you (or anyone).

47. Sometimes you really do not want to know what I am thinking. See above.

48. If you cheat on me, it is nearly impossible for me to get over it.

49. I don't remember everything about our relationship and that doesn't mean I don't love you.

50. I need some time to myself to calm down when I am upset so that I don't say something I will regret.

To read more, check out Bob Grant's THE WOMEN MEN ADORE... AND NEVER WANT TO LEAVE... You'll see why we call him The Relationship Doctor!

>> WHAT MEN WANT: How To Get The Man You Desire Most

"I love him so much -- how do I get him to want me?"

So many people don't have the slightest idea what to do when single and on the dating scene. We have so many other things in life that we are prepared for, like schooling, driving tests etc, but nothing prepares us for what men expect when they are dating women! It can be hard enough to put yourself out there and look for nice men, let alone know what to do to keep one when they show an interest.

Any modern woman who has despaired at their lack of success has been unable to examine the real reasons things have gone wrong because nobody has told them the mistakes they have been making. The first that most people know things are not really working is when the guy never calls back. They seldom ever tell you what you have done wrong, let alone offer you the opportunity to correct yourself!

I'm absolutely surprised at how many modern women blame themselves. They call themselves stupid, ugly ducklings. I'm amazed that modern women can still fall into that age-old trap.

Don Miguel Ruiz, in The Mastery of Love, explains that the amount of abuse we tolerate in a partner is equal to the amount of abuse we heap on ourselves. If a woman is used to telling herself that she's ugly, that she fails at everything she tries, and that she's not capable of performing in the world without someone holding her hand, then she'll accept--and even feel most comfortable with--a man who reinforces these beliefs.

For example, if your partner makes a cutting comment about the horrible dinner you cooked that night, and one of your beliefs about yourself is that you are a bad cook, then you will accept his comment and berate yourself even more for not being better in the kitchen. If, on the other hand, you feel quite self-assured about your competence in the kitchen, you will challenge him on it and refuse to let his rudeness slide.

As a result, many women find it difficult to set higher standards for themselves in the dating world without re-evaluating how well they treat themselves.

How do you win the man you really desire?

The writer I recommend is Sarah Paul: Sarah Paul is a professional writer specializing in relationship and marriage issues. She has extensive experience in helping single women with dating and relationship advice. She has been interviewed by Cosmopolitan magazine and is considered by many to be an expert in her field. She is best known for her amazing book How To Be Irresistible To Men.

In How to be Irresistible to Men, she outlines all the things so many women do wrong when meeting a man, and gives the reader tips and techniques to use their charisma and femininity to tantalize and seduce a man without coming across as pushy or brazen.

Sarah's book leads the reader through the minefield that has become modern dating. There are so many people offering advice on so many different areas of dating, it's hard to tell the good information from the bad. Sarah's tips and techniques have been tried and tested extensively, so you can rest assured her advice will be good for you! It's hard enough to succeed in the dating world without jeopardizing your chances with bad advice! Your friends may mean well offering their best dating advice, but the truth is, advice from your friends is simply not qualified, solid advice and won't necessarily enhance your chances of meeting men.

Sarah's information in How To Be Irresistible To Men is refreshing because the information she gives you to apply doesn't compromise your character or sense of self respect. It's not about manipulating men, or pretending to be something you aren't. It's about showing yourself in the best possible light, Maximizing your attractiveness to men, and allowing someone to get to know you. Sarah doesn't try to make you into her, she offers you advice to build on your strengths and avoid the awkward situations that seem to come up all too often.

Sarah teaches you how to:

Be more confident and feminine. Overcome your fear and self-doubt. Develop your sense of humor. Dress to impress. Kiss him in a way that will make him melt!

Anybody who has despaired at their lack of success has been unable to examine the real reasons things have gone wrong because nobody has told them the mistakes they have been making.

The first that most people know things are not really working is when the guy never calls back. They seldom ever tell you what you have done wrong, let alone offer you the opportunity to correct yourself! Sarah takes all the mystery out of it by identifying common mistakes that you should be aware of, as well as identifying areas that you can concentrate on to maximize on your abilities to attract that man you want.

There are different sorts of women that men go for, and if you want to be the type that they want to have a relationship with you need to know what they are looking for. Sarah shows you how.

This informative book comes with a treasure chest of extras and bonuses to further maximize your chances! When you purchase this package you get:

How To Be Irresistible To Men - Updated Version 7 Great bonus e-books. 50 articles on everything women need to know about relationships free email consultation for your relationship or dating questions "How to Attract Men" online audio course. "Secrets of Self-hypnosis" audio course. I truly believe that Sarah has covered all the areas of single life and the dating dilemma, and does this in a highly informative and comprehensive fashion that women will love.

Sarah really has done Womankind a huge service in creating this product!

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