What Women Want - How To Win the Woman You Desire

Tips & Advice from relationship expert Kathleen Falken

>> How To Talk To Women - Online & In Person

The first step to becoming successful with women is this:

Learn to have basic conversational skills. Learn how to talk to women!

You MUST be able to talk to anyone at anytime -- anywhere.

As simple as it may sound, this should be the first step you MUST simply master.

And WHY must you do this?

Well, think about it -- if you're able to literally talk to anyone AS and WHEN you like, don't you think you'll subconciously be improving your social conversational skills with people in general?

>>> The idea for you to do so is so that you become more COMFORTABLE talking to people.

That's it.

Forget whether it's with a guy or a girl for the moment.

Just make 'talking to people' second nature for you.

If you're shy with the girls, then a good place to start is with the guys - especially the guys who are already great with the ladies.

Use them as practice.

Seriously.

Think about it, common sense tells you if you can't even feel comfortable talking to guys, what makes you think you'll be better off with the girls?

You can learn A LOT from these so-called 'players' as well.

Remember, the fastest way for you to become great with women is to MODEL after those who are ALREADY achieving the success that you want with women at the moment.

You see, once you're comfortable talking with the guys, then you can start moving forward and try talking to the girls instead.

>>> Remember: make GRADUAL improvements -- on a daily basis.

Think about it: If you can gradually improve your conversational skills by a mere 1% each day CONSISTENTLY, by the very end of the month, your conversational skills would have improved by a whopping 30%!

NEVER underestimate the power of gradual improvement!

As Simon Heong, author of THE INSTANT ATTRACTION PROGRAM, says, "Don't be anything like the other clueless men, and start complementing her, be all submissive to her every demand, using cheesy pick-up lines, because women, esp beautiful ones, they are IMMUNE to such wussy like guys, its just too 'easy'/boring for them."

>>> The next key step is for you to TAKE ACTION.

Can you imagine how much more fun your life would be if you'll be able to just walk up and talk to any girl that you like?

With this skill in hand, you'll be able to mess around with any girl you choose, anywhere you like!

It could be just be the sales girl from your local shopping mall, to the waitress who serves you coffee, to even the girl sitting next to you in the bus stop!

Here's something you should also know when it comes to talking to women.

Most guys tend to try TOO HARD when they're talking to a woman -- a beautiful one especially.

They'll tend to be way too accomodating, friendly & 'complimentary' to the her which is exactly the OPPOSITE way that most 'alpha males' should be doing.

This is also EXACTLY the way that 90% of guys would be when they're talking to a woman which is wrong, wrong, WRONG!

What you SHOULD be doing in fact, is to NOT project tha vibe that you're trying TOO HARD to gain their attention.

>>> Remember: Be DIFFERENT.

You see, most guys, especially the shy ones, they tend to be too afraid in trying something funny or something cool especially if its with a beautiful woman.

My question for you is this?

What's the worst that could happen to you if you did?

But before we go into that, let me tell you this, and this really is a FACT. More often than not, the worst things that you would normally think off, will most likely NOT happen at all!

It's just your mind playing silly 'ol tricks on ya, that's it.

Now, worst case scenario is even if you DID fall flat on your face, at least you did something DIFFERENT, unlike the 99 other losers that said the same lame, over-accommodating lines that she's so accustomed to all along.

>>> You see, if you really want to be great with women, you must be a super 'ALPHA' bloke -- a guy who's NOT afraid to speak his mind AND do the right thing in any given situation and be the leader of the pack.

Not be all wimpy and accommodating and stuff...

Get it?

Think about it -- then go out and DO it.

You'll SEE the difference right away.

And you can thank me later, ok? ;-)

>> WOMEN'S EROTIC NEEDS: Her Favorite Sexual Fantasies  

"Should I ask him to make my favorite fantasy come true?"

The answer to that question depends on what her favorite fantasy was.

It's common for a sex therapist to ask their clients about their sexual fantasies. It helps to understand their problems and secret needs.

After over 25 years as a sex therapist and marriage counselor, I've heard a great deal of imaginative fantasies described, some in magnificent detail.

What are women's most common sexual fantasies? There are about a dozen that I have heard over and over again. Like THE MASKED STRANGER!

The Top Five most common Women's Sexual Fantasies are:

5. RAPE. Perhaps this could better be described as PASSIONATE SEDUCTION, since very few women actually imagine this fantasy as something they would really want to occur. They are fully aware that in real life, rape is a vicious physical attack that can destroy part of their very soul. In their fantasy, their seducer is incredibly handsome and seems to know their every want and need. To be possessed.

4. FORBIDDEN LOVE. This can involve anyone, from a married co-worker to a family member. It's usually a short fantasy, rarely thought out in detail. The setting for the fantasy may be as important as the identity of the forbidden lover.

3. PERFECT STRANGER. This usually involves someone just seen briefly, and then built in the woman's imagination into the perfect lover. Setting and story may become very detailed, often built up in her mind over a long period of time.

The important element in the above three, is that they are products of the woman's imagination and remain a daydream. They wouldn't want them to really happen. This isn't true of numbers 2 and 1. What makes these two fantasies so powerful is the added longing for them to come true!

4. EX-LOVER RETURNS. This is women's second most common fantasy. For many women, it isn't something they REALLY want to happen, but the longing for a lost lover is always there. This longing is more common in women than men. But for other women, the need for her LOST LOVER is deep and unrelenting. Something that must come true. If you have this problem I recommend the best selling BRING BACK A LOST LOVE!

5. CUNNILINGUS. This particular fantasy, and its prevalence, often comes as a surprise. After all, in today's cultural climate of sexual exploration and "anything goes," it's often a surprise to learn how "ordinary" many couple's love life is. Many men, especially men of older generations, just refuse to perform oral sex on their wives or girl friends. (Many women don't want to perform oral sex eiter, but my answer to them is easier: Try flavored condoms!) So cunnilingus is a common fantasy for women. (My answer to such men is: Try it, you might like it -- many men do!)

>> HOW TO MAKE HER WANT MORE SEX WITH YOU -- Interview With an Expert 

"She's been saying that all the romance has gone out of our relationship. How can I turn her on?"

A relationship is very involved, both on the physical and the intimate levels. One person may feel the need to cuddle (such as your woman) while you on the other hand, don't want to be too close after you are relaxed, and feeling completely satisfied.

Cucan Pemo, author of BRING BACK THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE!, explains it like this: "What you are going to find is that there are many things that are going to make your partner want to have more sex with you, and sometimes you are going to have to give a little, so you can get a lot more back in return."

Q. "What are some of your suggestions for rekindling passion?"

A. "First, think about sex, and tell her you are thinking about sex, even if it is over the phone."

Q. "Many men don't realise just how sexual women's thoughts can be?"

A. "That's it exactly. What many men don't realize is that women are going to think about sex quite often. A woman is going think about how you talked to her, how you kissed her, and how you rubbed your whiskers on her cheek the night before. Your partner is going to want to have more sex, the more they are thinking about sex, and the more often you tell her that she is sexy. Make an intimate call. Tell your partner all about what you want to do to her, and how you want to do it, and then let her think about that all day until she gets to see you again!"

Q. "What should happen when they are first alone?"

A. "Spend a few minutes alone, in the dark, as you listen to music."

Q. "Some men may think this is boring."

A. "Not many couples sit back, relax and just listen to music. Sometimes music is going to be very sexy, putting you or your partner, or both of you in the mood at the same time. Instead of just climbing into bed, and watching the news or the late show, you should turn on a bit of your favorite music and sit close with your partner."

Q. "Now things are getting interesting. What next?"

A. "Take a shower before you come and cuddle up close to your partner. Women are often turned on by the smell of cologne, or by the smell of soap. In taking a shower every night before you climb into bed, no matter how tired you are, you are creating a memory in her mind, of the clean smell she loves the most. Use this smell and the need to be close to you for your own advantage, so you can have more sex, more often. Sexual attractions are very strong, and if you are not using your natural abilities to attract your partner, you very well could be losing out on a good bit of good sex."

Q. "Keep going."

A. "Bring her a glass of wine at bedtime, and leave the lights on low. You might not realize it but all she wants is a little time, just five minutes to unwind and your partner will be ready for a little alone time with you. Bring her a glass of wine, tea, or just water as she unwinds and gets ready for bed. You will be thoughtful and insightful and she will remember these small things as you reach over and kiss her. Your partner just loves being the center of attention and this doesn't take much added energy at all on your part so you should give it a try!"

Q. "Men have been called selfish lovers. Should't he be doing something that also pleases him?"

A. "Yes. And he will if he offers her a quick massage, nothing fancy or too long, just a brief rub down. You might not realize it, but the feel of your hands, on her back, and on her chest is going to make a woman feel good. If you want to put more sex into your relationship, you should show your partner a little foreplay, a little extra care. A woman is going to be turned on as you touch the small of her back, the inside of her breast - and why? Because no one ever touches her in those places except for you, and with this touch you are going to excite her more often, showing her that you are intimate and that you want to pleasure her every need. You don't even have to rub her hard, or touch her that long, just the soft gentle touches that show you are close to her will relay the message quite clearly."

Q. "Oh yes. Now what should he do?"

A. "He should get in the shower with her, and let her see his erection. I tell my male clients that she likes to get in the shower and take a good long hot shower, and this is your opportunity to get in on the action. Slide into the shower, and rub her down with the soap. As you lather her up, rub up against her and let her feel how hard you are. You don't have to have sex in the shower, just put her in the mood so she will be turned on and looking for action when she gets out of the shower. You surely already know what cologne is going to drive her crazy, so if you were to shower and put a little on, she is going to get turned on, and want you, even if she doesn't consciously know it. Taking a shower is not only going to freshen you up, but it is going to wake you up and your partner at the same time."

Q. "And finally? What would you suggest?"

A. "I tell him, 'Don't just jump in bed, but slide into bed close to your partner and be next to her.'

"Slide into bed; slide right next to your partner. Jumping into bed, and making a ruckus is going to make your presence known but you are also going to annoy your partner a little more often. You want to be comfortable, and make your partner comfortable, so carefully climb into bed and get close. As you are sitting close with your partner, stroking her skin, and feeling her next to you, both of your are going to be more aroused."

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